So according to a new survey and study, when it comes to jobs, money and relationships, there still is definitely more sexual pressure on men from women than vice-versa.
Nowadays, western women believe they deserve to "have it all," meaning successful career, happy family with children, and generally good work-life balance. Even though they face many of the same realities and pressures as women, men rarely if ever talk about "having it all." We hear only about men's responsibilities, i.e. doing it all. (A woman might retort, "Well, men don't ask anybody for permission; they just do what they want!")
Although feminism successfully changed the culture's focus from women's duties to women's desires and opportunities, it seems that in many ways -- like having to be the breadwinner -- men got left behind in their old gender role, and they're not always happy about it. Other men retain all the old male responsibilities, plus new ones like housework and childcare.
With most families having two earners, a more even and equitable division of family labor is both fair and practical. But when it comes to joblessness, "There's something still about men's non-employment that flies in the face of what couples think a marriage should be." Feminism is silent about this double standard. In today's "man-cession," this double standard is especially painful. Women refuse to stand by their (unemployed) men. So should women be asked, like men have been asked recently, to overcome millennia of evolutionary hard-wiring to change their thinking and behavior?
By Anna Bahr
July 1, 2011 | Huffington Post
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